My Internal Battle with my Postpartum body and the importance of not putting body issues onto our kids

My Internal Battle with my Post Partum body and the importance of not putting my body issues onto my kids

16 Weeks ago, when Brooklyn was born!! It’s seriously incredible what out bodies go through!

As I sit here typing this, I am 16 weeks postpartum from baby #3. I know that I am an absolutely super human for growing three little babies inside my body, in fact, I am so proud of what my body has gone through. I also know that I need to be kind to myself, BUT I just don’t like what I see in the mirror at the moment. I am feeling huge (for me) and most of my pre-baby clothes still don’t fit! I feel like I am at the biggest I have ever been weight wise. Plus for some reason, I feel this pressure from society (maybe it’s because of social media) to already be back at my old weight. It’s such an internal battle I have and I am sure there are plenty others feeling the same way…

My Internal Battle with my Post Partum body and the importance of not putting my body issues onto my kids

Me and my kids on mothers day. Feeling unconformable in my own skin.

It’s such a head fu*$k this ‘in the middle’ stage. I am breastfeeding so I am starving ALL the time.  In general I am a healthy person. I try to eat nutritional meals and have healthy snacks. I know what’s good for me and what’s not and I know that I need to stay healthy to have the energy for my little people and to breastfeed. I do a big long walk most days with the dog and I am back at Pilates once a week. But, because I am hungry all the time, I am eating more frequently and larger meals than I probably should be. And I am definitely still indulging in too much chocolate! Which is why when I look down at my stomach I am so unhappy with it. I guess what it comes down to is me trying to switch my mind set and take a bit of pressure off myself. Really try and enjoy the ‘new baby phase’ and when I’m done breastfeeding, then focus on my health and fitness more…

My Internal Battle with my Post Partum body and the importance of not putting my body issues onto my kids

On holidays a couple of weeks ago, having fish and chips with my kiddies!

After I had Paxton, it took me a solid 18-24 months to really look and feel good again. My hormones were crazy and it wasn’t easy, but I was super disciplined. In fact, I even wrote an article for you guys back then with my top ten tips for how to lose that post baby weight. To tell you the truth, despite my internal battle at the moment, at just 16 weeks post having Brooks, I know I am not ready for that type of discipline just yet.

My Internal Battle with my Post Partum body and the importance of not putting my body issues onto my kids

My body 18-24 months post having Paxton. It took hard work to get myself back here. I know i can do it again, I just don’t think I’m ready just yet.

The other issue with feeling like this, is knowing how influenced my children are with what comes out of my mouth. Harper, my 4.5 year old, especially listens to everything I say and copies me. I am so aware of never shaming my body in front of her. Never making comments when I try my old jeans on that I can’t get past my knees because of the weight I’ve put on. On the odd occasion if one of them jiggles my tummy fat, I always say things like – “I made you guys, I grew you in here and that’s why it’s like this. It will take time to go back to normal. But I am the luckiest mummy because I got to grow you guys inside my tummy.”

My Internal Battle with my Post Partum body and the importance of not putting my body issues onto my kids

My beautiful girl Harper who literally copies everything I say and do.

So where am I going with all of this? Really I just want you mamas to know that you’re not alone with this battle of wanting to just enjoy your new baby and appreciate the miracle of what your body has just done, but then looking in the mirror and not being happy with what you see. It’s normal, we need to look after ourselves and be kind to ourselves. Everything in moderation and in time, we will get back there. When I am ready to get back there too, I will literally follow step by step what I did last time. It was hard, but the results were worth it and are definitely achievable again.

My Internal Battle with my Post Partum body and the importance of not putting my body issues onto my kids

One week after Brooklyn was born!

Keep going and being the best mums you can be!

Mel xox

My Internal Battle with my Post Partum body and the importance of not putting my body issues onto my kids

I am grateful for what I have, that’s for sure!

 


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